Tuesday, February 12, 2013


I have rather high expectations of people. While I realize that sometimes this can be the cause of the frustration I have with friendships, I can't seem to overcome this.

Basically, when someone says they are going to do something, I expect them to do it. I don't really like people who procrastinate on things, and I certainly don't like it when they don't do what they say they are going to do. It is a giant let down.

I realize people are human. I do not turn on people who let me down. Despite the pain that this causes me, I guess I set myself up for future failures.

Is it so wrong to expect people to be something, to do something, to follow through? I don't think it is. But, still, its very frustrating to keep having the same people let me down over and over. It makes me feel as if I'm not worth putting in the time, or effort, for something to be done, or whatever. Of COURSE I blame myself. Of COURSE I do. Because blaming someone else would be wrong wouldn't it? I do try to take responsibility for my own feelings. So maybe it IS my fault.

But really, shouldn't people follow through more? Shouldn't I be able to trust people and rely on them? 


  1. I say this all ALL. THE. TIME. I don't understand it either. There is a complete lack of follow through these days. I'm also a "planner" and find it nearly impossible to make plans with anyone. No one wants to committ. To anything. I share your frustration, and just wanted to say you are not alone. And no, I don't think you are wrong, either, for expecting more.

    1. exactly! no one wants to commit to anything, which gives me an uneasy feeling, and a feeling of unimportance; as if they honestly do not think i am important enough to do something with? like, why cant you plan on coming to a game night, or birthday party, or ANYTHING i try to plan? what is so important in your life that you cant put aside ONE day for me in a year or even more than that! and then why should i turn around and put all kinds of time and effort into those people who never put any in my direction? its exhausting. i know i shouldnt do things with the expectation that they would return the favor, but you know, one can only spend so much money thanklessly toward people, especially people who are FAR better off financially than i am.... its like, do you not see how much i put forth toward you, and you honestly have nothing to give in return? gee, thanks *sarcasm