Monday, September 22, 2014

A Long Pause.....

Sorry I haven't posted in a long time.

It has been a long summer. And now it is fall. Like, today, officially.

Sometimes when in conversation, one may encounter a long pause.
This pause is usually uncomfortable. There is rarely a time when it is a comfortable pause, it usually leads me to think "what should I say?". It is very confusing.

I'm already bad at "small talk" anyway. I don't know what to say, or ask. I usually avoid asking a lot of things because I don't want to come across rude or nosy. There is this subconscious feeling that asking questions is rude or nosy, and I'm not sure where that comes from. Why can't I just ask a question without feeling this way? I mean, people ask ME questions and I don't feel they are rude or nosy. Why would I feel so strongly that they think that about me? I don't know. I guess I would rather people just tell me things instead of lead me through a long list of "I'm waiting for you to ask me a question to give you more information". My husband is even guilty of this one. Sometimes he will start telling me something, and leave a long pause, as if waiting for me to ask. Well, if you know I'm going to have to ask, why don't you just finish what you're telling me and not wait for me to ask? Why do I have to ask to get further information? 

Anyway, if you're reading this and you're a friend, just tell me things. Don't wait for me to ask. Because I'm likely wanting to ask, but don't want to feel rude. It's all so confusing. Any other aspies feel this way?

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